What is SOCIAL and CULTURAL CAPITAL?

Let’s get the definition sorted. SOCIAL CAPITAL – is like a currency. Suppose you have 10 close friends. They are your social capital. Suppose you are respected and loved by your fans and your community that is again your social capital. So social capital increases if your friends and social circle think good of you and decreases if you are not nice to them. Social capital is a currency whose values increases and decreases as per time. It is dependent

How to HUG someone magically

A hug is magical and esoteric. I shouldn’t even be writing about it. In a research it was observed that new born babies who were touched put on weight faster and were healthier that the babies who were isolated. What applies to babies also applies to humans. We as a society have become suspicious of touch. The reason we are suspicious about a Hug is because a hug is hierarchical in nature. For eg. A elder person is more likely

Don’t chase your dreams

We have been told to chase our dreams, follow our heart, dream big. When someone tells us these Rhetorics, we don’t question them. These sentences are uttered mostly by people in power, someone who has an authority over you. So naturally you tend to not question them. We are instinctively built to trust authority and power. Recently I was reading an article on ‘ first principles thinking”. It is basically breaking down complex problems in to basics and building it

Are you smart or just street smart?

Do you often wonder, why the school bully who failed in class 3 and 7 went out to become a millionaire? Or are you one of them. There is a difference between smart and street smart. A street smart person doesn’t know about what is happening in the world, but he is a very worldly wise person. He knows when is the opportune moment to strike. While the smart person goes on intellectual theories ( being theory it is fundamentally

Resuming Blogging

It’s been sometime that I have not blogged. There are a few reasons for it. One is I feel tired and overworked all the time. Writing a blog seems vain during such times. I thought I would do video blogging, but not so confident about it. I write this blog, and try to be as open as possible on an open platform. Some times I feel people use the knowledge they gain about me from my writing against me. Predators

I am not alone, mera pass community hai!

I am alone – This is stuck in my head. It is not that I am the only one who thinks this way. In a break up scene IRL – I tell my ex “ Why do you bother, go and live your life, BE HAPPY” She replies “ Because you have no one”. This temporary weakness of my ex during the break up and her statement “because you have no one” ricocheted in my brain several times. It does

I thought my Life would be like my Father’s

I think there was only one man I looked up to when I was growing up. It was my father. He had successfully built a narrative about himself to me of being a great man. The story was “ I ran away from home at the age of 10 with no money. I came to Mumbai and became an Engineer form a prestigious mumbai College studying under Street lamps often”. Most of this is true, he was extremely successful given

I am a writer, here is why.

Everybody nowadays thinks he/she is a writer, including me. A school friend on seeing my blog messaged me on FB saying “ I didn’t know you could write”. I chuckled, I could barely speak English till I was in 10th Standard. In the 11th Standard, my Catholic neighbour would only speak English and I picked up slowly. So English is my third language so to say. Street Hindi/Marathi being the first two. One of the most frustrating part of my

Halwa Ya Baladi Homage to Egypt Cover By Line Sleibi

This Egyptian song has become my ear worm this week! This song was sung in the 1970’s by an Egyptian singer. The cover is sung by Lina who is absolutely marvellous at it. The musicians have also done an amazing job. The setting on the terrace create the most mesmerising atmosphere and you feel transported to Palestine, where Lina Sleibi comes from. Helwa Ya Baladi is an homage to Egypt by Dalida (the singer) who was born in Egypt. Below

My words don’t need you any more

My words don’t need you anymore They have moved on to a better place. A place that doesn’t want anything from you. My words now don’t want to be heard. They are comfortable in their own skin. They are there for no reason. They just flow like water finds in own level. They will flow and find their way like water. They will quench thirst, grow a tree or a forest. They might just get wasted in a puddle or

No means No but consent is much nuanced.

The husband is a wife beater, but the wife refuses to register a Police complaint. It has been going on for years. She could really put him behind bars, but forget calling in the Police she endures it and lives with it. Does this mean that she consents to her husband beating her up? They fight like cats and dogs. She tells him to get out of the house. Everyday it is the same story. She goes hysterical and goes

Walking up to a Stranger and telling you lust for her.

Things are tough for guys. If you tell a women you really want her and if that doesn’t come out right. You could be in deep trouble. One reporter friend told me how a techie was arrested for solicing online over Linkedin. I am petrified of soliciting girls. I say girls, because I don’t have access to a pool of divorcee, middle aged women. I had decided that I was out of the dating/lust scene. But man is basically a horny animal, till he is counting his final breaths.

Publicly grieving for my father’s deaths

I got a call, it must have been 2 am or later. “Daddy passed away” the voice said. I was told to immediately leave for Bombay. This was 18th Feb 1999. I along with my 6 month pregnant wife drove 420 kms to Mumbai. I had to take more than 5 breaks to use the loo during this 10 hour drive. My bowels were emptying. There were no tears. I guess diarrhoea is a kind of crying too. Ofcourse if

How to not marry a psychopath or a sociopath

Before you marry, you need to first tick off these 2 lists for sure. Your Prince Charming or Daddy’s princess might turn out to be a psychopath or a sociopath. The reason for writing this post is I just clearly understood the distinction between a psychopath, a sociopath and a narcissist. Empathy So it all boils down to empathy. Empathy is literally putting yourself in other peoples shoes. The problem with empathy is unless you don’t understand other people pain

Birthday Wishes

So one more down and not sure how many to go. Preserving the old body takes lot of effort. You have so many things to think off. For eg. how to replenish your gut with good bacteria? how to make sure that your back doesn’t fold up or what is the tingling sensation in the brain? Is it a tumor? Why are my legs aching so much after a short daily walks? Accomplishments Anyway, a good ol’ friend called said,

Why People don’t help the people who need help.

Recently I met a man who is part of a very big NGO. He told me curtly “ If you feed stray dogs, there is always a fear that they will come and dirty your front porch”. Another friend was even more blunt, She said “ People who land in this kind of situation probably deserve and get themselves in”. The whole business of alleviating other people’s pain is Big Business. The problem is the people in the business of

Plugin the financial leak

Yesterday, I left the tap a bit open. It was dripping and I was in a hurry to get to work. Evening I came home and saw that the taps had run dry. I was furious, the overhead tank was empty. I tried to figure out how in the hell could drops of water drain away and entire tankful of water. This morning I remembered a financial advise of a old friend. He used to say , save a bit,