Category Archives: Thinking & Ideas

Dream Big and be happy with small things.

Think big or Dream Big are the phrases we hear often in motivational talks. But it is easier said then done. There is a opposite phrase which is also quite true-It is- “Happiness lies in small things”. So what do you follow. Do you think Big or take happiness in the small pleasures of every day mundane life? Here is my recommendation For inspiring yourself and motivating your team → Dream Big For personal happiness – Enjoy the beauty in

Don’t chase your dreams

We have been told to chase our dreams, follow our heart, dream big. When someone tells us these Rhetorics, we don’t question them. These sentences are uttered mostly by people in power, someone who has an authority over you. So naturally you tend to not question them. We are instinctively built to trust authority and power. Recently I was reading an article on ‘ first principles thinking”. It is basically breaking down complex problems in to basics and building it

Sleep when you are sleepy and not when you are tired.

We all sleep. Some sleep less and do more and some sleep a lot but still do less. Now, I am not an expert on sleep, but recently I had this epiphany. Let me share with you the secret of how to get sleepy when you are nearing bed time. A few weeks ago, I decided to get up and walk around my neighbourhood in the morning. When I went on these walks, I observed that I was sleepy when

Balancing the extremes

Recently I met a friend after long time and while we were talking he told me that way back he did some Numerology on my name and said, “I see that your life is very extreme like you you will face extreme circumstances”  what he meant was probably a lot of ups and lots of downs” Feels like a rollercoaster ride doesn’t it? But everyone’s life does feel like a rollercoaster ride, right? But maybe mine is more I don’t

Finding my Roots

Roots are your family, you leave behind when you travel abroad, roots are your deep beliefs. Roots are your blood relations, roots is your mother tongue. Roots is your first memory of awareness as a child. Roots is your memory of the first person saying something unkind to you, but they were probably true. Roots is permanent address, roots is where you will go when you die. Roots are your school friends when you meet them at the school reunion.

At crossroads – an insight into decision making perhaps.

We try to do it all or we try to do what we are already good at. Both these situations are uninspiring, the real challenge is to head in to the unknown with calculated risks. I am risk averse, i am so sure of my utter failure to cope with anything thrown at me in life, I am so sure about resources drying up before I reach my goal. Now at a cross roads I have to decide whether I

Why do we want to talk to someone and not talk to someone else?

Life is very lonely, also staying alone sometimes days and weeks go by without talking to someone. Of-course clients call and sometimes taking the pretence of professional work some interesting conversation happen. At the same time I go to great lengths to avoid calls from friends who wants to have a friendly chat. Its rather perplexing, I feel like talking to complete strangers like my clients than actually talk to so called friends. Sometimes I even think of asking someone

Playing a Martyr.

If you live with people who you love, or have people who you love or are bound in a relationship of love. You have often played the Martyr. Playing a Martyr means laying down your own happiness so that the people who you are bound by bonds of friendship and relationship can get what they please and be more happy than you. We all do it, I get rare opportunities to be in this position of playing the Martyr, but

My top 5 tools for deep thinking.

One of the greatest form of entertainment, i have discovered recently is “thinking”. But let me admit it, I am not so good at “thinking”. If i was good at “thinking”, I would e having more fun in life, than trying to have fun because I am not having fun . So let me list the few things I should be doing to sharpen my little piece of brain so I can think better. 1) Reading books helps. Yeah, this

When to give up on your desires?

You only desire, what seems possible or what is possible to dream off. For eg. You might dream of a big 4 bhk house in Hiranandani Gardens, Powai or any tony neighbourhood. But you wouldn’t even dream of a 4 bhk on a moon or mars for that matter.  So desires are calculated risks, we take to move from one place to another, they seem to be the subconscious road maps for the future.  But what happens when you attain

I had to do it.

I like being in this situation where there is no other choice left, but that what needs to be done, and which I have to do it. If i was the CEO of Nike, I would change the slogan from “Just do it” which is has connotations of “unconscious”  decision making to ” I had to do it” which denotes “conscious” contemplation and well thought over action. If we stop doing things, just because they just need to be ticked

Bless you with the small joys of life!

The knock There was a knock on the door, I opened the door and she said “Oops, looks like i got the wrong house” She smiled, I gave a welcome smile (which said pleasure was all mine)”. I will never see her again, but yes she made me happy by the dazzling smile of hers. Lucky Restaurant You go to a restaurant, its packed to capacity, the manager could easily say “cannot accommodate” since you are a single person and

Unwell thinking

When you are unwell, all your resources are focussed inwards, you have 2 desires 1) to die painlessly or 2) to get the fuck well asap. But I like to recover slowly, I love the trip this unwell state of being takes me to.  I think of the following things Iam full of gratitude to all the humans who have helped me in this journey of life.  Your mind is on a rewind mode. I have lived long, and maybe I

HORN NOT OK, PLEASE !!

This afternoon I was at a cafe in bandra which is owned by a bandra localite, maybe 2/3rd generation bandra-ite. It’s located in the not so noisy part of bandra. The cafe is very popular among expats and as well as macbook chugging indians. Anyway, there was a small jam in front of the cafe, it was just a matter of few minitues and the traffic would have smoothened out. But then a guy in a SUV was a bit impatient  he started

Projection Vs Imagination

The word Maya in sanskrit means to measure. You can only measure something which has a centre a fixed point.  When i mean Projection, i mean the mental projections we all do, like calculate the pleasure we are going to derive, after we upgrade our current phone or the pleasure we derive in thinking about the supposed vacation we can have after we save X amount of money every day.  I think Projection is a great calibration tool, to measure

Demystifying intuition

Intuition is the most abused word in recent times, any stupid person will take any random decision and base it on their so called “Intuitive Powers”. But honestly decision making would be such a inefficient activity if people didn’t channel their intuitive powers. One philosopher has defined “Intuition as nothing more than refined thinking”. There is no super power, no clairvoyance, just refined thinking. I have started believing that. I have bull-shitted every person who claims to have intuitive powers,

My idea of a vacation.

I have never taken a vacation, at-least I cannot remember it for now. But I am seriously thinking about indulging in one long one.  Here is why others go on a vacation –  De-stress bond with your wife/lover a family trip sightseeing Cause you need adventure. or just for the heck of uploading pictures on facebook and twitter and making others jealous. Here is my idea of a ideal vacation place –  I would like to goto a place where the society